Eat the monster and you will become it?

Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become it. ~ Nietzsche

I have a question for you guys. How does one develop the supposed ‘thick skin’ we artists are expected to have without becoming cold? It’s something that’s concerned me  lately. I understand the concept of letting things slide (turning the other cheek) but there are times when I see some pretty rude behavior out there. What really gets to me is when I see another writer, photographer, painter… treated with outright disrespect. I feel like I just want to reach out and smack someone! How on earth do I go about fighting such ‘monstrosities’, since it seems to be in my nature to want to fight them, without becoming a monster myself?


“Their mouths are full of cursing and bitterness.”

“Their feet are swift to shed blood;

ruin and misery mark their ways,

and the way of peace they do not know.”

~ Romans 3:14-17

12 thoughts on “Eat the monster and you will become it?

  1. That’s the funny thing about ‘thick skin’. Originally, it was in regards to handling negative criticism about one’s book and maybe a few small barbs. I don’t think it really pertains to getting insulted, threatened, and downright attacked beyond the scope of the book. Authors are human, so there’s no reason they should be expected to be willing punching bags. That being said, we do have to learn to pick and choose our battles. Some people attack for attention.


    1. I hadn’t considered that. Maybe there is a lot jealousy out there? Maybe people disrespect artists because they never followed their own dreams…


      1. Possibly. Think it’s different for everyone. Some claim to be literary gatekeepers and try to get those they feel are subpar to quit. Others just like to start fights to make themselves feel better. It’s a strange world out there.


  2. In my opinion, if someone is being disrespectful call them out on it. You don’t need to be rude. Just mention that you find their manner of communication less than helpful. If you are straightforward and ask why they think what they think, it will make them question things themselves. For people who still insist acting like a troll, then really just find the spam or ignore button. If it is really bad then the report button.


    1. Maybe I should start calling them out on their behavior. Especially when I’m trying to defend someone else.


      1. Just make sure you don’t come across as overly hostile, make it seem like you’re trying to understand why they are acting that way. If you attack directly, they’ll just throw up a wall and then cold war happens, lol. (Or a very bad flame war, lol)


      2. Cold wars, yes, I am familiar with them. I asked someone what they meant by a negative comment they said. I told them I was merely curious. They accused me of being oversensitive and stomped off. Oh, well…


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